5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence
Every woman is beautiful; unfortunately some of us don't realize it or don't understand it. I believe in empowering women by giving them the tools to understand it, own it and trust it.
Earlier this year, I had the opportunity to work at an event
hosted by The Women Social Health Foundation in partnership with the
New York-Presbyterian Hospital and Columbia University Medical Center:
Reclaiming Healthy Intimacy, Passion and Pleasure.
At the event, Dr. Hilda Hutcherson identified body image as one of the issues women are facing in the process of reclaiming healthy intimacy. As a personal stylist, I help my clients explore, understand and make the most oftheir unique beauty. Dr. Hutchinson made me realize an aspect of my work I had never really envisioned before: reclaiming your inner beauty is part of the process of reclaiming healthy intimacy. Remembering these five principles will definitely help you in this process for feeling better about yourself and having better relationships.
1. Start focusing on your strengths
Because we live in a society where the media constantly remind us that we are not perfect, women tend to focus on their perceived flaws and lose their best assets in the process of hiding what they feel uncomfortable about. Those ‘perfect’ beauty standards are not a reflection of real women because truth is there are no standards and perfection is very subjective notion. We are all unique and beautiful. It is all about understanding your shape and dressing to suit it.
2. Remember: It's Not the Size that Matters, It's the Fit
Sizes fluctuate from one brand to another and from one cut to another. Even if it feels like navigating in a jungle, make sure the fit is always right whatever the size is. You will look more put together and leaner. Keep in mind that wearing larger or smaller size tends to make you look larger than you actually are.
3. You Can Be Fabulous at Every Age
Accept your age and dress to suit it. Dressing younger than your age generally makes you look older. Besides, there is nothing sexier than a woman who embraces her age instead of fighting it. In the same vain, wearing clothes that are coming from another decade will age you.
4. Find Your Flattering Color
Some colors just relate to your personal coloring and make you look healthier, younger, slimmer and brighter. They also make you FEEL healthier, younger, slimmer and brighter. Other colors bring out all the flows in your faces and can overwhelm you, so that people barely see you.
5. Love Who You See in the Mirror
If you do, you will feel confident and powerful!
Reclaiming your inner beauty is truly a self-discovery journey of self-acceptance and style-improvement that will lead you to a confident and dazzling you. So don’t be afraid because this process will certainly be an exciting and rewarding adventure!
Do you know what are your best assets? Do you dress to enhance them or are you focusing too much on what you want to hide about yourself?
Do you need advice on how to find and enhance your best assets? Please ask!!
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Date: 01/14/2010 - 01:01 pm
Dear Shirley,
They are few points regarding my article that I would like to clarify for you hoping that it will help you better understand my point.
"Dress your age" is an expression to say that one will not be at her advantage if she's 60 and wears a teenager pink short skirt. You can look fabulous, sophisticated and sexy at every age with the appropriate attire.
My point was basically: wearing clothes that look too young in order to look younger can actually make you look older, which is the reverse of what you are trying to do. Same thing for the fit. Some women wear tighter clothes – or larger clothes – in order to look slimmer without realizing that it actually makes them look larger.
When I say "larger" or "older", I mean larger or older than you are. I absolutely do not imply that being large or old is bad. It is all relative. You can dress the way you want while showing yourself as you truly are.
Warmly,
Date: 01/13/2010 - 10:36 am
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Date: 01/12/2010 - 03:21 am
The dressing your age to me is what fits and you are comfortable , I being a small women most junior clothes fit me well I usually dress in tight fitting jeans , and I have a cute butt, If you have it flaunt, it , no I do not wear the mini skirts anymore , although are at least two - three inches above the knee , and I get a lot of male attention. It not the sex I am after , I enjoy the attention. most women I see , do not know how to dress attractive in less they are going to work , work is work not the place to flaunt, fun time , flaunt it all if you are comfortable , and comfort is the key ,
Date: 01/10/2010 - 08:54 pm
What exactly is "dressing for your age"? When I was in my teens and twenties (and much less obsessed with sex than guys my age) I was constantly pressured to dress in a revealing and sexy manner and from what I see around me, it's no different for young women now. But now that I'm older and in my sexual prime (and much MORE interested in sex than men my own age lol) I'm told to "dress my age'" which from what I've seen means no short skirts or low rise jeans or anything that makes me feel sexy or fun. Well, FORGET THAT!!! It's about time I started to dress the way I want to dress!
And HOW DARE YOU say in one sentence that "You Can Be Fabulous at Every Age" and in the next, blatantly contradict that by saying that: "Dressing younger than your age generally makes you look older." Well, if you can be fabulous at every age then exactly WHAT IS WRONG WITH LOOKING OLDER?
The whole article completely undermines a woman's ability to feel good about herself by reinforcing the notions that women can only look attractive if they are thin and young. When you say that any fashion is wrong if it makes you look older or larger, as you do, then you are saying that looking older or larger are bad things - they are automatically unattractive.
I guess this shows how completely enmeshed we've become in the idea that we are not attractive as we are, that an article this negative toward larger or older women can actually call itself "5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence". Sad, really sad.
Date: 01/10/2010 - 01:30 am
That was very helpful and eye opening! Thank you for that. I have been reading a book called "Style Statement" by Carrie McCarthy it helps you assess who you are and asks questions how you view yourself and your life. It is a fabulous book for learning about your life if you are in a troubled or difficult time in your life or just if you want to know more about yourself. I would recommend it to anyone who is interested in learning about themselves and becoming comfortable in their own skin.