Not Only Skinny Models Destroy Our Self-Esteem, Plus-Size Models Do Too
Women of all sizes rejoiced when plus-size model Lizzie Miller appeared in Glamour revealing her less-than-taut stomach proudly, when Kelly Clarkson announced that she doesn’t have a problem with her weight, that the media does, and when German women's magazine Brigitte announced that they will only feature real women, no models. Bigger bodies are finally being celebrated in the media.
Meanwhile, in a recent Dutch study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, researchers found that self-esteem decreased for overweight women when they were shown photographs of both thin and plus-size models. However, underweight women found an increase in self-esteem when exposed to the same models. As more than half of the American population falls in the “overweight” category, what is the apparent body-acceptance movement helping, if it’s not helping our self-esteem? Expert Linda Bacon Ph.D., and author of Health at Every Size, talks to us about loving your body at every size, how to improve self-esteem and what needs to be done to change the current ideals of beauty, that thinner is better.
NSD: In the study, why do you think that photographs of models, plus-size and thin, lowered self-esteem in overweight women?
LB: The cultural message that thin is better is deeply ingrained and extends well beyond advertising and media. Media images tend to reinforce whatever your belief system already is. Many people don’t have good self-esteem in the first place. So when you don’t have good self-esteem, and you see these images, it’s going to reinforce that you’re not okay, because you can’t be what is portrayed as beautiful.
NSD: Wouldn’t you think that seeing a prevalence of women that look more like you help your self-esteem?
LB: While there has been increasing openness and portrayals of plus-size models, it isn’t yet enough to fully supplant the very strong cultural message that thinner is better. So while it’s helpful to view larger models, it’s still not enough to change our value system alone. I think there are two different issues here, body esteem and self-esteem [the study did not measure body esteem]. Body esteem is feeling good about your body, so it’s important that we do see different images of larger, beautiful bodies. And, a separate issue is self-esteem, which is feeling better about ourselves for other reasons other than our physical bodies.
NSD: Is the body acceptance movement within the media enough to change the current ideals of beauty?
LB: I don’t think that alone it’s enough to change people, but it’s part of the process. I applaud the industry for expanding in this way and the wonderful models participating in this. On some level, it’s helpful. We need to do a lot of work in other realms.
NSD: What needs to be done to get rid of fat prejudice?
LB: The biggest thing we need to look to is the healthcare industry. For a long time, it has been promoting these myths: that you have to be thin to be healthy, that if you eat well and exercise right, you’re going to be thin, and the notion that fat bodies are representative of failing at good health habits—all these are myths. I think that we’ve got to throw out this concept that Body Mass Index (BMI) tells us anything meaningful about health. Doctors need to start having real dialogue with patients to find out about their health status. Instead of determining their health status by looking at a number on a BMI chart, they should be asking people what their health habits are. We need to support people in achieving good health and not use weight as a marker anymore.
Since it’s impossible to avoid media or advertisements, how can we work to improve our self-esteem?
LB: We’re not going to find the fashion industry really being representative of the diversity of body sizes. But, there is a behind-the-scenes fat-acceptance culture and you can find books and magazines that are devoted to people just enjoying and appreciating bodies across the sizes. I encourage people not to rely on conventional media and look to the alternative. We need to value the incredible traits that we have whether it's our compassion, caring nature, or our ability to love or affect people. We need to value these traits more so than the more superficial traits like physical beauty. It’s also important to surround yourself with people that love you and respect you and to demand that from people.
NSD: What are the biggest influences on one's body image?
LB: Along with media, I think we learn these things from our families. If we grow up in a household where our parents are constantly dieting, then we have to fight our bodies, thinking thinner is better. Our attitudes towards our bodies get started in the home and it gets reinforced in the outside culture.
NSD: While body diversity may not be improving self-esteem for heavier people at the moment, do you think that this is a step in the right direction?
LB: I’d like to believe that we’re headed in that direction, but I’m not confident. I think that there are two movements that are happening at once. As the size-acceptance movement is gaining momentum there is increasing interest in portraying a diversity of bodies and recognizing that people should be able to feel good about themselves regardless of their size. At the same time, I think that people that are trying to portray that thinner is better are digging their heels in even more and mounting more vicious campaigns. Both movements are just becoming more powerful.
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Comments
Date: 12/08/2009 - 04:04 pm
That's absolutely ridiculous. Why is it always the women with smaller frames and lower weights that men are drawn to? Because in a man's subconcious, it associates itself with weakness, failty, being child-like. The man feels dominant, and more powerful. Insecure pricks.
I'm sure you're a beautiful, strong woman. Try as hard as you can not to compare yourself to her. This won't help you, it'll only make you feel worse. Just like you can't be her, she can't be you. Never. You are the best person in the world at being YOU. Don't lose yourself.
Punch him in the crotch for me, just once. I'm sure he's a good guy.
Date: 11/28/2009 - 08:57 pm
"because I'm not 135 lbs or a size 4/6"
It doesn't stop there honey.
I'm 5'4" and weigh 114 and my husband still doesn't think I'm thin enough.
He likes the neighbors wife who is 5'3" and 95 pounds. I've been so distressed over this for 5 months now.
Date: 11/18/2009 - 07:38 pm
If you eat write and exercise you will not be visibly fat. That's not a myth. Very fit people simply are not fat. What we need to get rid of is the cookie cutter notion of attractiveness we have for women. The Pam Anderson look with the uber thin body and big boobs is a cartoonish male fantasy. The rail thin fashion and lingerie models exercise, starve, and smoke themselves thin. We also need to get rid of the idea that normal women are goddess sized and if you're anything smaller than a 14 you're not a "real" woman. I don't like any of these narratives. Our sight is skewed. We vascillate between extremes to the point where we have no freaking idea what an average sized person should look like.
Excess visible fat is obvious and most of us can tell the difference between being over fat and being a sturdy person with thick musculature and large bones. Being an anorexic is different from being a healthy, naturally slender person. It's these people, fit, with all their variance in body shape that should be held up as examples. Until we start eating well and exercising well, we will continue to have that skewed vision, imho.
Date: 11/04/2009 - 02:02 pm
First of all, if your husband met you when you were a size 22, he obviously fell in love with you just the way you were. He shouldn't be trying to change you. I think it's awesome that you lost 80 lbs. and have been able to keep it off. That's something to be very proud of and everyone should be giving you positive, loving feedback!! My daughter is a size 20, was 22, and i think she looks beautiful just the way she is!!! And she has such an amazing personality, is very loving and giving. She's awesome!! Her doctor has spoke to her about possible health issues, which alot run in our family, anyway. But that has to be her decision, and not anyone else's. My daughter does work out, cuts back on stuff, and is eating healthier, but i told her to find a weight where she feels the best at. She's the only one that knows how she feels and it's her body!! She isn't healthy when she loses alot of weight, she's tried that. So that's the point i'm trying to get at. You sound like a really nice and loving person. Find a weight where you feel the best at and to heck with what anyone else tells you!!! Maybe they should start liking you more for who you are, how you are on the inside and for your personality. People shouldn't judge people for how they look on the outside. If you can wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, know that you are the absolute best that you can be, and love the person that you have become, then that's all that matters. Just continue being you. Well, it was nice talking to you and i hope this helped. Take care and be safe. Bye for now.
Date: 11/04/2009 - 01:19 pm
I have a big self esteem issue that I'm trying hard to work on. This stems as far back as my childhood. The older i get and the more weight i gain, the worse my self esteem gets. The bad thing is, when i was really thin, very pretty, and in modeling, i still thought i was fat and never good enough. Isn't that crazy?? This past year i have had more time to work on me and i realize how much i love the inside of myself, just not the outside. I realize how terrific I am, now if i could just learn to love the outside just as much, no matter how much weight i gain, and no matter what age i am. I'm trying to learn to love myself no matter what. This has been very hard for me, but i'm working on it. I think that's part of the issue is we are always trying to look as good as the women in magazines and on tv, lose weight to please our husbands, friends, family, and everyone else. We all just need to learn to love and cherish ourselves and to heck with what anyone else thinks!!! I have also came to realize, that it also depends on who I'm around and what relationship that I'm in. That also has alot to do with it. My new husband, and I, have been together for quite awhile, and he shows me unconditional love, which I have never received before, accept from my children. He loves me for me and tells me how beautiful i am, everyday, no matter how much older I'm getting or how much weight i gain. He has been so good for me and my children. I'm so very blessed!! My goal is to be able to look in the mirror and see myself as "Beautiful", like my husband does. All of you ladies take care and be safe. Bye for now