The Way I See It
Tracie
I have never dieted. Not once. I like food. I never accepted myself before either, though, until recently. My husband has all along felt I was beautiful, and I'm just now boarding that train! I'm 27 years old. I don't want to be in the body image trap the rest of my life. So I have decided to control what I can change. I can't change being 5 foot 10. I can't change my bone structure. I can't change the fact that I have big feet and finger toes. Seriously. I have finger toes. This is an unalterable fact. I can change my mind, though. I can change my heart and the way I see myself. So I've decided to. Only I can change that. Instead of passively consuming a message of inferiority and self hatred, I've decided to actively see myself as beautiful and confident. And the more I do, the more attractive I feel. My husband has responded to this change in me by pursuing me even more than he was already, which adds to the beauty I'm choosing to live like I have. I have chosen not to take in a message that says I'm not attractive. It's up to me, not anyone else, to be beautiful and walk and talk like it. I'm not giving permission to people or a culture that doesn't even know who I am to tell me I'm unattractive because of something I wouldn't change even if I could. Not now. Not anymore.
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Date: 01/16/2009 - 10:44 am
Hi
You go girl! We do not have to conform or listen to others about our way of seeing ourselves. We do not have to wear high heels or tight skirts or anything else that makes us uncomfortable, just because 'they' do.
Eating is also a personal thing. Our body weight is entirely personal. Of course, we all know the place where we start to feel uncomfortable and need to adjust our attitude to change things a little bit to suit US.
MJ
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Date: 01/16/2009 - 09:55 am
Most importantly, as long as your healthy, keeping a postive attitude about who you are and how you feel is what makes an individual beautiful. "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" as is with your husband, and with anyone you come in contact with.
Date: 01/16/2009 - 07:36 am
Dear Tracie,
You are a lucky person to have a husband who loves your look. I believe that the support from the people we love is the most encouraging, but rarely present.
Aspasija
Date: 01/16/2009 - 07:35 am
I find myself very reflected in what you're saying! I'm 27 too and have felt uncomfortable with my body till recently. I decided that I love to eat well and that I don't have to be super skinny to be beautiful. Don't know how it happen, but for the first time in years and after many, many diets, I feel confident, even if society tells me that my perfectly healthy weight is not right to fit in some standards.
Keep going!
Date: 01/16/2009 - 07:27 am
This is the best advice anyone can give/get!!!!